So, shouldn't I have to prove myself?

I am a millennial with a lot of negative stigmas, shouldn't I have to prove my worth and ability to contribute? In my short 7+ years in the workforce, I haven't felt that I needed to prove myself near as much as I was expecting. People are often surprised when they find out that I'm a millennial. Is it because the expectations of us are so low that when I do the things I say I'm going to do, and I do them well, they can't believe that this is coming from a millennial? Or is it because they don't really know the age range of the millennial? I am not sure but I will say that coming into the workforce, I was expecting to have to prove myself more.

When I started my first job, in most circles of the company, I was accepted very quickly. Now, I will say, there was a group of designers who were not expecting much from me, but I believe that was mostly due to my role and not my age. Also, there was this one guy who didn't want fresh blood on such a core brand, but I proved him wrong quickly. Otherwise, during my four jobs since college graduation, people seem to have no preconceptions about my quality of work. If I can toot my own horn, sense this is my blog, I would say it is because I come in the room with a sense of confidence and, more importantly, humbleness.
 
I believe that the more you act like you trust in other's experience, the more people are willing to work with you. It seems that people don't expect you to know everything and they appreciate honesty when you don't. As a millennial, I have inherently been in the work place a shorter amount of time than others; that does not mean I can't command respect or bring an alternative opinion to the table. 

If I 've been humble from the beginning, people seem to be more receptive to any recommendation or discussion topic I might bring. I recognize that there is a lot of knowledge that I do not have, and I can also have an opinion. I believe that if you position yourself as accepting of the knowledge of others while potentially helping them to be exposed to a different perspective, then people are willing to listen and converse, not combat with you.

One place where I was humbled the most was, where people tend to the most narcissistic, at business school. All millennial are narcissists, so I should have been extra. At any rate, I did evening school at Emory with people ranging in age and background professionally, personally and geographically. I quickly realized that I probably had it the easiest out of most of my classmates. I had a job that wasn't taking 100% of my brainpower. I had no children. I had no real responsibilities beyond going to work and hanging out with friends. so, why not fill my time with something that propelled me and hopefully inspired me? On the days when I was overwhelmed, or had procrastinated or whatever caused me to have to get up at 4 or 5 in the morning to complete an assignment and then go to school that night until 9 o'clock after work, I remembered that I still had it easy. I didn't have to drive in from the suburbs, over 45 minutes away, nor did I have a husband to fight with about responsibilities and I didn't have to miss putting my kids to sleep. I'd remember, "Christine, if women in technology, with English is a second language, probably has to fight for respect at work, has children ,and a baby on the way, can show up and be engaged in class, you can too."

I was at a conference yesterday put on by my company's Women's focused Business Resource Group, women's LINC. The theme was to Dare Boldly. One of the speakers, Kelly Loeffler, spoke about how her company had to prove itself in the marketplace. So I asked her, how has she proven herself and how has her company proven itself over the years? She came back, first of all, and said "I'm so jealous you're a millennial, doesn't everyone want to be a millennial these days?" and then preceded to say that it was all about confidence that you have the right background, knowledge and skills to do the things that you are doing and you must communicate what you are doing. Communicate with no preconceptions about quality or accuracy, just make sure others know what you are accomplishing and/or where you are focusing so that people see progress and can begin to relate it to the work they are doing. I think the key to the communication is confidence coupled with openness to input from others who may have alternative experiences to bring.

 

In that classroom, or in my company's business resource group, I meet so many people with so many jobs that I didn't even know existed. People are happy to give an explanation about their jobs, and if you ask in a way that is inquisitive and respectful, people will be willing, and sometime eager, to share. We, as millennials, have been told we need to prove ourselves. It doesn't have to be through having the right answer; It should be through knowing that you probably don't, but you can bring a unique perspective to the various answers out there.

So, I turn 30 today

So, I turn 30 today. I was born in 1985, obviously, and this makes me a millennial. I am working hard to advance my career at a Fortune 500 company while traversing the tricky road of relationships, physical and mental health and self fulfillment. I am many things beyond a millennial: I am a woman, I am a hiker, I am an intermediate rock climber, I am a casual chef, I am a newlywed, I am very cognizant of my biological clock, I am a friend to those who push me to be better and I am passionate about stepping outside of your/my/our comfort zone. This blog is about a millennials' evolving route through life.

What is a millennial and how do I fit in?

People say millennials need validation. It's true, I like to know I'm doing a good job or that I'm doing the right thing related to work and life; who doesn't want to know that? Don't you agree? ;) I find that I am constantly questioning myself, because I am often the youngest opinion in the room. When I receive validation of my opinion, it builds my confidence. 

People say that millennials feel entitled. To me, that depends on your perspective to what they feel they are entitled. I feel entitled to a safe and welcoming work environment where my peers can bring their whole self to work. On the other hand, I believe I'm lucky for the opportunities that I've been given throughout my life. I am a white, straight girl who grew up in the suburbs. My parents are both well educated, hard-working, engaged and generous people; therefore, I started out with advantages over other people. However, some would argue, that I started with a few disadvantages because I am a woman. I feel lucky that my parents are such amazing people and I feel grateful that they have always put my future and well being at the forefront of their priorities along with my other siblings and now their children. So my route hasn't been too bumpy so far, when compared to many others; I feel lucky, humbled, driven and inspired to work towards success, and not entitled to something more. 

People say we are lazy. However, most of the lazy people I see in the workplace are older generation men. That's not to say that most older generation men are lazy, because I see a lot of hard working men in the generations above me. However, when I see someone that is "above" doing certain tasks or does not seem to be exceeding expectations, it is often a man in a generation above me. As for the millennials I see, most are either hard working or have a different set of priorities than work. I haven't encountered a significant sample of lazy ones, IMHO (In my humble opinion).

Why do you care? 

No matter what you think of the Millennials, a lot of people are talking about us... What I think has not yet set in, as it hasn't for many of us millennials it's happening to, is that WE ARE TURNING 30! (Ahhhh, I'm turning 30 today!! Please No! I want to stay in my 20s!) Other millennials are moving into mid-level manager positions. Many are married and starting families of their own. We are en route to play a bigger role in the culture and decisions in the workplace and home life. Some of us may actually have our own experiences and lessons learned worth sharing with the people following us; especially since the youngest millennials are 11 (arguably) and will need insights into joining and succeeding in their life, relationships, college, workplace.

So, I turned thirty today and started a blog. The goal of this blog is to share a millennial perspective on the everyday experiences at work, at home and anywhere in between. Hopefully my route is worth sharing, feel free to give me some validation ;) Also, if you're interested in sharing about your route, I'd love to have some guest bloggers!