So, I've been married for 6 months...

So, I've been married 6 months and on our six-month-versary we walked in the Atlanta Pride parade! 

As a human, I believe strongly in the concept of being your whole self, whomever that may be. Millennial's are gaining the reputation as one of the most tolerant generations, we have the largest percentage, per generation (according to this Pew Research study) to support gay rights. This study also shows that millennials are a more ethnically diverse generation, with it growing in generations behind us. They are less likely to be polarized in their views on religion and politics. This all makes me believe that change in the right direction will continue. The decision from the supreme court makes only solidified my excitement to be married to my husband. Now, I am part of a community of people who, in many cases, have shown me what a true partnership looks like. Marriage is a partnership, and it always bothered me that they have been used so exclusively in the past.


Oh my, is Lucas a wonderful partner. I've spent much of my adult life working to be a strong, independant woman who doesn't need a man, but wants a partner. I certainly found it in Lucas. I am still in awe about how great it is to have. I know we're still in the honeymoon phase, but I feel so lucky. He does the little things, like help get things done that I hate getting done and start a project to re-vamp the yard because he knows how much the mosquitos attack me (maybe he's tired of hearing me complain after I choose to sit outside knowing they are terrible, but it's still nice :). He also does the big things, like support me when I am trying to make tough decisions about my career, and include me when he's doing the same.

When we got engaged, my very insightful friend (MVIF) explained it well, "Isn't it awkward being so formal with someone you're so informal with?" It was, but then Lucas and I walked down the mountain together, after the proposal, and started telling eachother everything we'd been keeping a secret for the last few months. Next came wedding planning. We had an Obnoxious Yet Tasteful Texan Wedding*(see Mick Jagger quote below). We jumped on the train of personalized ceremonies, and we wanted our guests to feel like they had come to "our wedding" and felt a valuable part of our ceremony and celebration.   

Even though there are articles out there about how millennials just want money or gift cards, Lucas and I are on the other end of the spectrum. We welcomed "off-registry" gifts and I wanted fancy china to use at dinner parties... A common theme in my childhood home was, use the china! We used it whenever we felt the occasion was special enough, even if we weren't wearing our "sunday best." We intend to do the same. My husband is a minimalist, so he had no interest in china, but he supports the good food he gets to eat at these dinner parties. He's accepted my generally over-the-top approach to all things in life with open arms. Mick Jagger said it best, *"Anything worth doing, is worth over-doing" (a life pholosophy I've adopted from my lesbian twin (MLT). 

In our 6 months of marriage, we have eased our way back into the normal hussle and bussle of life, our gifts have become part of our every day routines and we have tried to maintain a steady stream of Lucas + Christine time and friend time. Nothing too ground breaking, but I must say, I like being married to Lucas. We are lucky. We don't have to deal with unsupportive families; we never had to worry about other people's religious or political views possibly ruinning our wedding day or our relationships with our friends and family. Nor have we had to make the decision to not be legally married because of state legislation. We just had to worry about the weather, and that turned out beautifully.

Happy Six-Month-Versary to us! 
Side note: I hope you all celebrate the little stuff.  Life is too short and too good to wait around for the big stuff. Use the china, light a candle or a sparkler or do whatever makes you happy whenever something you feel is substantial happens. Take a moment to appreciate the moment! (thanks MVIF).